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Is it Emotional Infidelity? These 15 Blogs Will Help You Discover the Truth

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People don’t often realize it, but emotional infidelity can be just as destructive as affairs that progress into physical infidelity. If you’ve slipped into emotional adultery or are concerned that your partner has, it’s natural to feel adrift and alone. A quick online search reveals, however, that emotional affairs are common. As depressing as that …

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17 Steps for Coping with an Abusive (or Cheating) Spouse

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How much do you tolerate with an abusive spouse? What have you put up with? In this blog I list 17 steps for coping with a spouse that exhibits addictive behaviors. Frequently, addictive behaviors increasingly over time lead to abuse thrown in your direction. 17 Steps for Coping with an Abusive (or Cheating) Spouse 1. …

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Help for Troubled Relationships

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Warning: in this article I’m taking a very critical look at conventional self help and professional counseling for troubled relationships. I saw what I perceived to be the demise of the therapeutic community’s capacity to be effective back in the 90’s when I served on the State Board for Marriage and Family Therapy. It was …

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Why “Working on Your Marriage” Will Actually KILL Your Marriage

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The First Radical Unconventional Mind Twisting Step to EASY LOVE …Stop Trying to Fix Your Marriage Don’t dive in! If your marriage is in shambles, broken and and you are emotionally falling apart, don’t… please don’t… jump in and try to fix it. No date nights. No plans for a romantic getaway. No plea for …

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Stop Pursuing Your Spouse

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Hello. Dr. Huizenga here. 80% of Couples Struggle with This My experience as a Marriage and Family Therapist over the past 3 decades tells me that 80% of couples struggle with the Pursuer-Distancer Merry-Go-Round. (The 20% struggle with other patterns. I go into detail describing the Red, Yellow and Green Marriages in the Advanced Module …

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Distant Spouse and Saving your Marriage

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Can Your Marriage be Saved? This question is a tough one to face for most facing the demise of their marriage: Can this marriage be saved? Is it too painful or disturbing for you to entertain this question? The thought of your marriage ending is often terrifying: -My dreams and hopes for a good life …

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14 Common Marriage Killers

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I’ve hired a researcher and writer to provide you with typical information related to marriage and relationships. These posts will not go into as much depth as I do, for obvious reasons. This post, 14 Common Marriage Killers, hopefully will stimulate your thinking about what conditions or situations in your marriage trigger the upset and …

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1 EASY Way to Get a Drastically Different Response from your Cheating Spouse

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I had a reader and someone I had coached email me the other day with an interesting result to a shift in communication she tried with her husband. Her husband was having an “I don’t want to say no” type of affair. This type of affair often is grounded in a sense of entitlement, a …

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“I Love You but am Not ‘In Love’ With You”: What Does That REALLY Mean?!

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“I Love You but am Not ‘In Love’ With You”: What Does That REALLY Mean?! Here are a few possible underlying meanings or distinctions for the “I Love You but am Not In Love with You” outburst. 1. An ongoing or possible affair relationship. Your spouse may have a strong attraction to another person, and …

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Love is EASY When You Use the 3 Easy Love Laws

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The Shift to EASY LOVE Your old world, the world of relationship fear, anxiety and tension is the world in which you believe you can “fix” your relationship or “make” or force love to happen. You insidiously begin to feel like a victim giving your personal power to your spouse, a therapist or a new …

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