Intimacy in Marriage: The Fear of Loving
Is it really just men who are having trouble with intimacy in marriage? How do women cope with this fear? And how are they different from men? Perhaps you also know this fact: That women have “issues” with closeness and intimacy in marriage just as much as men do. Although women may approach the issue
Why Men Have Difficulty with Closeness
What is it that creates men to have difficulty with closeness? And, how does it make you feel? Please understand that this is not about man bashing. I’m a man and I prefer not to be bashed. And women, I assume also don’t like to be bashed. We have enough bashing in our culture. The
The Underlying Relationship Meaning of “I Love you but am not ‘in love’ with You”
So, what exactly is the underlying relationship meaning of “I love you but am not in love with you”? And how do you respond when your partner tells you that? This is part 3 of a seven part blog series on the underlying relationship meaning of the words, “I love you but am not in
When to Divorce: What’s Love Got to Do with It?
Should you really start thinking about when to divorce when your partner says that he or she has “fallen out of love” with you? This is the second part in my series of blog posts on the commonly used phrase “I love you but am not in love with You,” which will focus on what
How to Help Me Fix My Relationship When My Spouse Says “I Love You…But am Not ‘In Love’ with You Anymore”
So, you ask, how can you possibly help me fix my relationship? How do you do more than swallow hard and go into shock when your spouse says, “I love you but am not in love with you anymore?” I will present distinctions and what your confused spouse might REALLY be saying to you,which is
Resolve the Marriage: Finding a Resolution for Your Marriage Instead of Saving or Ending It
Is it really about saving or ending your relationship with your partner, or do you just want to find a way to resolve the marriage? To resolve the marriage means finding a life-giving, self-respecting, other-respecting avenue to expose the old patterns, undo the old patterns and create new ones that give life, hope, true love
Saving the Marriage: Why Do you Love Your Spouse?
What are the real reasons you have for saving the marriage? When I ask a spouse why he or she wants to save the marriage, I often hear, “Because I love him or her.” And I sometimes respond, “What is it about him or her that you love?” or, “What do you mean that you
Dream Marriage: Can You Really Create the Love You Want?
Is it possible for you to create a dream marriage? Yes, you can create the love you want, a love you can TRUST. You can move toward your dream marriage. It is very possible. The quality and intensity and degree of TRUST of that love depends on a number of factors. At a minimum, you
Why Valentine’s Day Leaves People Feeling Unhappy in Relationships
Why are people so unhappy in relationships after Valentine’s Day? I read an interesting article in USA today. Those sites that offer memberships for those who are married and looking to “hook up” with another married person, as in have an affair, report a booming day AFTER Valentines Day. It is one of their most
