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Facebook Live Q&A with Dr. Huizenga

I’ve decided to take advantage of Facebook Live and offer an opportunity for people to get their questions answered by me personally. The first Live video was a success! The recording is available below. Here are a few of the questions that were answered during the session: “What can the betrayed wife do about the …

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The 3 Beliefs that Ruin a Marriage or Relationship

Your Marriage Breaking? Shattered? Your marriage is breaking. You don’t want it to break, but it feels like each day a new piece shatters. Do you sometimes feel like the door of love, acceptance and intimacy has been slammed shut in your face? You feel unappreciated, alone, ignored and emotionally light years removed from your …

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Why did you marry THAT Person

Do you ever give that question some thought? How do you know if you married the right person? Your relationship is in the pits and you want to know how to fix your marriage fast. You snarl inside when your spouse does “their thing” and the thought jumps across your inner cortex, “What in the …

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Is it Emotional Infidelity? These 15 Blogs Will Help You Discover the Truth

People don’t often realize it, but emotional infidelity can be just as destructive as affairs that progress into physical infidelity. If you’ve slipped into emotional adultery or are concerned that your partner has, it’s natural to feel adrift and alone. A quick online search reveals, however, that emotional affairs are common. As depressing as that …

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Help for Troubled Relationships

Warning: in this article I’m taking a very critical look at conventional self help and professional counseling for troubled relationships. I saw what I perceived to be the demise of the therapeutic community’s capacity to be effective back in the 90’s when I served on the State Board for Marriage and Family Therapy. It was …

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Why “Working on Your Marriage” Will Actually KILL Your Marriage

The First Radical Unconventional Mind Twisting Step to EASY LOVE …Stop Trying to Fix Your Marriage Don’t dive in! If your marriage is in shambles, broken and and you are emotionally falling apart, don’t… please don’t… jump in and try to fix it. No date nights. No plans for a romantic getaway. No plea for …

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Stop Pursuing Your Spouse

Hello. Dr. Huizenga here. 80% of Couples Struggle with This My experience as a Marriage and Family Therapist over the past 3 decades tells me that 80% of couples struggle with the Pursuer-Distancer Merry-Go-Round. (The 20% struggle with other patterns. I go into detail describing the Red, Yellow and Green Marriages in the Advanced Module …

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Distant Spouse and Saving your Marriage

Can Your Marriage be Saved? This question is a tough one to face for most facing the demise of their marriage: Can this marriage be saved? Is it too painful or disturbing for you to entertain this question? The thought of your marriage ending is often terrifying: -My dreams and hopes for a good life …

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“I Love You but am Not ‘In Love’ With You”: What Does That REALLY Mean?!

“I Love You but am Not ‘In Love’ With You”: What Does That REALLY Mean?! Here are a few possible underlying meanings or distinctions for the “I Love You but am Not In Love with You” outburst. 1. An ongoing or possible affair relationship. Your spouse may have a strong attraction to another person, and …

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