Save a Marriage Forever Formula
11 Steps to a Self-Healing Marriage or Relationship
- The Formula is a powerful tool. 11 Steps encapsulate the healing/change process taken from different “tools” I’ve used as a therapist and my work with thousands since 1981.
- The Formula is not a one shot and done tool. Use the Formula whenever you experience an upsetting situation. Print out a number of sheets and follow the Formula 1-3 times a day.
- Some of the steps are counter-intuitive. For example, canceling a proactive goal (get him to love me) seems rather strange, as does the fact that another person’s behavior results in self punishment. Bear with the formula.
- The Formula works most powerfully in conjunction with deprogramming your mind and heart from what you’ve been taught about relationships. This is a process. Be patient with the confusion (confusion stands next to discovery!)
Drop me an email email@example.com if you would like a free session to work through the Formula.
Please review these videos in which I walk Kat and Ron through the Formula.
Summary of Video with Kat
Kat discovered the affair 17 weeks ago. Kat recently set a boundary: he must leave the house if he continues his relationship with the other person.
He rejected her invitation to a “Last couple’s diner.”
jealousy, hurt, anger, rejection
He won’t tell me the truth. He has plans with the other person.
Kat’s Response and Punishment
Kat shut down and gave up her power.
Kat’s Constructive Goal
To get him to open up and be honest
Kat’s New Goal of Love
Love self first and get power back
Summary of Video with Ron
Ron rescued his future wife from prostitution and drugs. They are married with children
After a child’s birthday party, Ron’s wife told him she wanted a sexual separation.
I was not good and screwed up my life.
Ron’s Response and Punishment
Ron begged her to “come back” and punished self by feeling guilty.
Ron worked to change her mind.
We discussed different goals between “letting her go” and being a “hard ass.”